Bumper Car Theory

During the work day, every so often, things get slow. So I chat. 


The other day I was waxing philosophical with one of my nearest'n'dearest about life, love and the pursuit... Specifically about how we learn from mistakes and mess ups, if they don't scar you permanently and make you phobic.


This is a snippet of that conversation that I thought might be interesting to share. (I'm in blue - my lovely friend is in black) 


Bumper Car Theory

you learn from it .. but it scars the shit out of you ...

and you learn to fear it ...

so its tricky.

totally agree

the older i get, the more those lessons learned become phobias ... ugly stuff.

that's interesting

I've never thought of that

hmm

i have a theory on this one ... as with all things

fairly genius theory?

haha ... could be.

i will perhaps call it the "unified theory of stubborn"

when we are young we act like bumper cars ... we try every path, we bounce off the guards, we hit each other, we spin round and round ... we have fun with it ...

the older we get, the more controlled our driving. the more tightly we grip the wheel. we obey traffic. we stop speeding. we stop spinning our own compass, we stop making wrong turns on purpose. we get stubborn.

we think we know where we are going. so we drive there.

and once we arrive, we think we know where we are.

and then we realize ... we were just driving. gripping the steering wheel. eyes ahead.

the best example is dating ... but it applies everywhere.

i think that is very very true

you need to write about that

when you are young you are just crazy - if you like boys, then all boys get a glance. but as you get older, you THINK you know what you like. you PICK a type. you start gripping the wheel ... and then you realize one day (i did anyway) that the guys you choose are wrong for you.

i'll do that ... just for you

the grand unified theory of stubborn.

i love it

or perhaps "bumper car theory"

sounds more fun anyway
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